Break the Worry before it breaks you

By Somali K Chakrabarti

The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness.  ~ Alain de Botton

We know that some people have a naturally strong mental built, and there are others who are inclined to worry more.

While each individual, in any capacity, needs to cope with anxiety, but the ability to overcome anxiety is absolutely essential for any leadership role. During prolonged  periods of uncertainty, leaders must manage their own anxiety as well as the anxiety of their team.

Anxiety may be due to various reasons ranging from environmental factors, to medical condition, to genetic conditions or substance abuse or due to a combination of these factors.

Each of us would have experienced those moments, when we felt our palpitation going up, a strange churning in the stomach, or sweat on the brow just before an important meeting, or an exam, or before getting a medical report, or on any other occasion.

Whatever be the reason for anxiety, it depletes a person of his/her strength.

  • Continued anxiety causes excessive worry.
  • You suffer from a victim mentality and believe that nothing ever works for you;
  • You are restless most of the time, feel irritable at the slightest provocation.
  • Your concentration suffers and sleep is disturbed and as a result you tire yourself out very easily.

Those with an anxious disposition, can blame it on their mental constitution, their genes, their fate or can work upon it.

The choice is yours!

Here are some quotes that tell us how to deal with worry and conquer worry.


1. Train your mind and tackle things that are under your control

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.   ~ Marcus Aurelius


 Power over mind


2. The best way to deal with worry is by cultivating a positive attitude

A positive attitude helps us to deal with be happy, peaceful, hopeful and to appreciate the positives in life.

Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure. ~Bob Bitchin



3. Do not fuss over small things

If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it. ~ Anthony J. D’Angel

Whining is no good


 Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.

Complaining doesn't help

What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.   ~ Maya Andelou

Don't complain


4. Thinking about your misery all the time will make you more miserable.

 The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James


Avoid Stress


Overthinking ruins friendships and relationships. Overthinking creates problems you never had. Dont overthink, just      overflow with good vibes. ~ Supa Nova Slom


5. Keep yourself so occupied that you don’t have the time to feel sorry for yourself.

 Keep busy

6. Accept the situation and make the best out of it.

    It does not always help to be cynical.

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. ~ Eckhart Tolle




7. Don’t bother about what others say, do the very best you can.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.  ~ Bernard M . Baruch        

 Be Yourself


8. If you expect gratitude in return of your kindness, you may be disappointed

Do not expect gratitude



9. Count your blessings, not your troubles.

  Count your blessings not your woes, count your friends not your foes.

Count your blessings


 10. Don’t worry about the past. Do the best you can and put enthusiasm in your work

 Live for what tomorrow has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.

Live for tomorrow


These quotes guide us towards the way to channelize our energies for reducing the impact of stress on our lives.


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24 thoughts on “Break the Worry before it breaks you

  1. Excellent ! Sri Aurobindo’s teachings also relevant. Whilst in jail and subjected to all sorts of pressure to submit, he remained calm and meditated. Finally, someone from the ruling dispensation asked him how he managed to remain so calm : his response has guided me in my difficult times : ” you cannot change the environment but you can choose and control your response to it “. Try it next time your boss screams at you….it works !

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    1. Thanks for the comment Sir. Very relevant in the context and worth trying. Reminds me of one of the workshops at Tech Mahindra. The person who was conducting the workshop asked a colleague of mine to introduce herself. Everytime she gave an introduction, he ridiculed her and made her repeat the intro. Finally when she lost her cool and shouted back, the person gently said ‘If I am being ridiculous and am provoking you to lose your cool, that does not mean you have to react to it in the same way.’ The lesson was effectively conveyed.


  2. I find point number 5 to be the most effective. Now rest of the points are good, but you have to do something out of the ordinary or keep reminding ourself that it has to be done.
    But point number 5 is something which makes you straight way shift gears. One of my option is playing a game on the mobile.
    Forget the world straight way.

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  3. Great collection of motivating and inspiring quotes. Only thing is we have to remember them when the time comes. Usually situations are so overwhelming that we tend to get carried away and forget such positive thoughts.

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  4. I so so agree with all the points here Somali and I had terrible anxiety attacks related to an attachment I could not give up and trust me your points are so valid, esplly be busy that the thought does not cross your mind…loved the post!

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    1. Thank you Shweta, I also used to panic for petty things earlier, which thankfully is not the case any more. I guess it requires constant conditioning , and definitely helps to go through inspiring quotes from time to time🙂


  5. Hi Somali,

    I stumbled across this awesome post, when doing research for one of my articles on happiness. In my article I have referenced a few of your thoughts and an image, with due credit and link-back.

    Here is the link of my article:
    How to be Happy

    Warning: It’s a long post🙂

    Do read it and let me know your thoughts/ any suggestions.

    Subhodeep Mukhopadhyay

    Liked by 1 person

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