By Somali K Chakrabarti
Anger is that powerful internal force that blows out the light of reason. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
Anger, we know, is a powerful emotion that is difficult to repress and finds expression in the most destructive ways.
At some point or the other in your life, you would have witnessed rampant incidences of violence on the street, in the neighborhood, at office, or maybe even at home. There could be occasions when you would have reverted to aggressive behavior, wanting to teach someone a lesson, or to show that who is the boss.
All such incidents are a direct consequence of our unbridled expression of anger in a destructive manner.
However, when channelized in a constructive manner, anger can produce incredible results. Many mass movements, freedom struggles, civil rights movements etc. were founded on anger against injustice.
Here are some quotes that urge us not to be destructive in the expression of our anger.
Anyone can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way – that is not within everyone’s power and that is not easy. ~ Aristotle
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. – Mark Twain
Do not let your anger lead to hatred, as you will hurt yourself more than you would the other. ~ Stephen Richards
Similar sentiments were echoed by Buddha centuries ago
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.~Buddha
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. ~ Buddha
Since anger is an emotion, getting rid of anger is never an easy task, dealing with it constructively is manageable though.
Anger, when vented out in the form of aggressive, critical or vengeful behavior, sarcastic remarks, withdrawing communication or withholding something are destructive expressions of anger. Constructive expression of anger, on the other hand, involves working towards solving a problem, instead of just venting out your frustration.
Channelizing the energy into doing something constructive can help in converting anger into a positive force.
The greatest remedy for anger is delay. ~ Thomas Paine
Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it…Don’t allow his anger to become your anger. ~ Bohdi Sanders
It is wise to direct your anger toward problems; not people. To focus your energies on answers; not excuses. ~William Arthur Ward
Anger kills logical thinking and logical thinking kills anger….the choice is yours. ~ Ketan r Shah
Lastly,
A moment of patience ina moment of anger prevents a thousand moments of regret. ~ Chinese proverb
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Certainly. Humans learn from their own mistakes- rajat
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Thanks for sharing your view Rajat.
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Short temper is state of mind & being. Sometimes on blows his fuse in the slightest instance. Sometimes one stays cool in the most difficult circumstances to defuse the situation.
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Very true sir. Angry reactions can be unpredictable, and holding on to grudge can be harmful. Thank you for sharing your view.
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Short tempered people are emotional idiots. Cool guys are sometimes cold blooded & calculating. Also a lot depends on your occupation for a living.
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Yes getting balance is the key.
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All quotes are excellent Somali. Good article.
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Thank you so much.
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Very good post, deep quotes! 🙂
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Thanks Jatin.
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Such wise quotes!
More than half my life is over, yet there is so much more to learn.
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Ha ha, that’s exactly the way I feel Indrani – so much to learn as compared to what I know. Thanks for writing.:-)
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Wonderful Article! Although all the quotes focus on why Anger is bad, I personally have channelled my anger in a way that it has made a better person than yesterday! 🙂
So, in hindsight I believe Anger is good, but only when it makes us want to better ourselves!
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True Tuhina, Yes it’s like a weapon- whichever way one wants to use it. When channelized in a constructive way it can indeed make us better, but that, somehow, doesn’t come naturally to most of us. Thank you dear for writing.
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Very good post, deep quotes! 🙂
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The moment you loose your anger your logic and mental balance flies out of the window and you make big mistakes. Be in control and you do things right. Good write up
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Thanks. Well that’s something to learn from you. 🙂
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As you said, anger must be channelized into something creative. I usually scrub pots to vent out my anger. They are all shiny and clean in my kitchen. 😛
Great post!
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Saru, thanks for writing and for sharing your way to channelize your anger into a useful activity. Definitely a practical tip.
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Beautiful post. I really love the thought that says – Delay is the best remedy of anger.
I will try to implement it. And you have rightly said – it’s an emotion and can’t be get ridden off. We gotta make ourselves flexible to avoid it.
Self awareness is the key to avoid anger and frustration.
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Thanks Nitin. Yes, if we can’t avoid ‘anger’, we can at least try to deal with it better 🙂
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Anger is in different areas of daily life. In office anger has to be controlled. In plant you have to exercise authority. At home I prefer to go to another room. Taureans are like “Bull in a china shop “
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True sir. Better to manage anger than to be managed by anger.
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Very valid sayings.
Anger is terrible…
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That’s true Anita. Life would be easier if we could always remember that. Thanks for stopping by.
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Good quotes. Just adding —
“Do not meddle in the affairs of wizards, for they are subtle and quick to anger.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
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So apt, yet something that one and all tend to forget. Thank you.
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सोमाली जी, गुस्सा चाहे वह खुद को आए या दुसरे को, हमें उस पर नियंत्रण रखना आना ही चाहिए. उपयोगी टिप्स …
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Bilkul sahi Jyoti ji. We need to exercise control on our anger. Thanks for stopping by.
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These quotes are so true!
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Anger harms us more than we can imagine Lynn. Thank you.
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It does Somali I know this first hand!
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Of course you do and you have dealt with it calmly and strongly Lynn.
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Thanks Somali, I still get mad sometimes and feel I have no control of my life, old feelings! These quotes remind me!
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I sincerely hope Lynn that writing helps you to get over any residual bitterness that might have remained in your heart due to the challenges you have faced.
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Thank you!
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Thanks Somali for selecting my views on anger….I am honoured…ketan r shah
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Hi Ketan. It’s so nice to hear from you. Thank you for coming up with such a wise quote.
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Very nice collections of quotes i liked it very much so thanks for sharing and keep posting.
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